Skip to main content

Success in the 21st Century - Gender differences?

If you speak to successful people, there are those who tell you:
  • they had a plan from day one  (organised)
  • they were just in the right place at the right time (lucky)
  • they worked hard and were recognised (dedicated)
  • they continued to grow their skill set (life long learning)
  • they saw an opportunity and grabbed it (opportunistic) and
  • they are well connected (networkers)
All work individually, and, in combination, could make you unstoppable.   Of course, there are other factors, too - the economy, changing business requirements, to mention just two.
And then you have to define success.
Every person I speak to has a different definition, so for the purposes of this little article, I have tied it down to a few key areas that matter to me:
  • Having a fulfilling purpose
  • Having choices
  • Financial independence
  • Successful integration of work and home
It is important to note that I have made the decision to no longer talk about work/life balance because it has been pointed out to me (thank you, Mr Adrian Schofield) that work is life, too.   So it is now work (or office) and home.
While we used to define success as high status and financial riches, it is very clear that the traditional male concept is undergoing a metamorphosis.   Women and the millennials see success in achieving family and business goals.
Being able to work and play in a time choice way are also key success factors.   It’s not about working less, but working when…
Reading the Spark Business IQ report on work/life balance (I know) for small business, it does appear that men are better at setting the boundaries in many ways, but raises the question that this might be because their financial situation enables this.
69% of women in this survey cited the right balance as success, as opposed to 58% of men.
So, yes, there are differences, but not opposite ends of the spectrum.  It appears, that the millenials of both genders are coming down more on side of  work needing to be aligned with a full life plan.
I was lucky enough to hear Cheryl Carolus speak at a conference where she asked the audience “When is it enough?”    It was an inspiring speech to a mainly female audience, asking them to be ambitious without being dissatisfied.
This is the crux for me, recognising and appreciating what you do have, while continuing to strive to grow and achieve your own objectives and goals.
And some of those goals definitely need to be of the bucket list variety.
So rejoice in every success, at work we ring a bell for every sale, start each meeting with success stories, and at home we celebrate with great food and wine…
Links, References and Notes


Thank you for reading Teryl@Work.   Should you wish to use any of the material, please acknowledge this blog as the source.

twitter:   @TerylSchroenn

Popular posts from this blog

Salespeople - Just Answer the Question.

How we love to elaborate…     Both in our personal and business lives.   It is rare to find somebody who simply answers the question.
In sales, it is becoming more and more critical to just say yes or no.   If you want to embroider afterwards, by all means, but tell the client you can or you can’t do it, first.

That’s what they remember, the yes or the no. Being married to an engineer, I have learnt that if I don’t answer the question, he simply repeats it, until he gets a definitive answer..
As the above is extremely bad for marital relationships, I try to say yes or no first and then give the details.

I thought it was just me, but I have been observing my friends and the people I work with, and it is fascinating how few one word answers are immediately available. When you are selling and a client asks you:
If the widget turns blue in the dark, say yes if it does, then ask if that is a key part of the decision making processIf they ask when you can deliver, give them a…

Hi, 22 year old me..

If I were 22 May is my birthday month, so a time for celebrations and introspection. In interviews, I often ask our applicants to pretend they are 60, and look back on their careers.   Their dreams range from leaving a legacy to being able to retire by the age of 45. At 22, I had taken my first steps on the career ladder.   I had been promoted from being a PA and Installation Secretary (setting up PoS installations for NCR’s large retailers) to becoming a full time programmer. I had made some extremely poor academic decisions, and realised I had to make some very good career choices.   Software development was a relatively new field when I was in my early 20s, and it became an exciting and fulfilling career. Based on my history what advice would I give myself or a new graduate? It doesn’t matter what you have studied, or what your first job is. Keep looking for your passion, find what makes you happy. If it’s money, and you don’t mind being a little unchallenged, as long as there is eno…

3 things to do BEFORE you resign

or sign a new contract…
1.Confirm your notice period ·A lot of companies allow 30 days from date of resignation, but many ask for a calendar month
2.Check your restraints ·If you are joining a competitor ·If you are joining a client
3.Find out when your last payment will be transferred ·Companies have been burned by paying over on the 25th, and people not returning, so they may delay payment transfer until the last official working day, or even the first day of the following month.  You may need to make special arrangements regarding debit orders ….
Both your current company and your new one deserve to be fairly treated.   Knowledge of the policies makes this possible.
Even if the policies don’t make sense to you, you agreed to them when you signed your contract.
HR managers will tell you how many great working relationships are damaged because people don’t follow policy when resigning. It’s worth taking the time for many good reasons.  Building a solid career can depend just as much on how you …