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Outside work, unwinding does not always have to be mindful….
(This article was written in response to the LinkedIn February brief #OutsideWork)
Nothing is really work unless you would rather be doing something else.”  J.M. Barrie
And, old faithful, “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life
We aspire towards balanced lives, talk constantly about work/life balance (as if work were not life) and often make work sound like the grudge part of the day. 
I like to believe I have an integrated life, instead of a merely balanced one, with paid and unpaid sections.
There are those who write their own pay cheques, and, for them, balance and integration are even more difficult to achieve.  
The reality is that, for many people, their work is their life.   Even taking vacations cuts into their total absorption.
I am not like that, at all!
I love what I do for payment.
I also love doing the stuff that keeps me close to family and friends.
So lots of breakfast with friends, watching favourite TV programs with the family, setting aside date nights and, of course, book club.
I am starting to forgive myself for being the kind of person that relaxes without purpose.
  • I am not always trying to get fitter when I go for a walk, even if I should;
  • I am not always trying to expand my mind when watching TV, although people’s intimate home life reality shows are when I hit the change channel button quickly;
  • When I do a jigsaw puzzle, it’s going to be broken up within days, and handed over to somebody else, so no purpose, other than to pass the time enjoyably;
  • Food is not fuel, it is a sensual pleasure, not to be partaken on airplanes, unless desperate;
  • When I read, it’s because I need to, and often the only purpose is to chill and enjoy the book.
Sometimes, it’s just because…….
So my biggest balance problem is hitting the great divide between work, fun and leisure with purpose.
Reading transports me.   My husband maintains that if there wasn’t a book or magazine, a cereal box will do…
I read the classics years ago, and still dip in now and then, but love Science Fiction, Fantasy, Thrillers and beautifully written novels.

I do accept that I should set myself some #OutsideWork purposeful objectives.
  • Walking being one. My husband is totally committed to at least 5 dog walks per day.  We have two gorgeous Rhodesian Ridgebacks and I know I should participate more regularly. I love it when I do.  I do go at least once a week, and keep promising myself I will do more.
  • More travelling - I love to travel, particularly because of the amount of guilt free reading time there is on any flight. I am polite to my seat companions, but by the time I take out my Kindle, magazine and paperback, and place them within easy reach, they hopefully realise that conversation is going to be limited.   The magazine and paperback are for take off and landing, as I do not want the responsibility of interfering with any of the mysterious workings of the plane.
  • More mentorship and coaching, I gain as much, if not more, than I give and as a woman in a leadership role, I would like to expand this side of my life
  • More writing – such fun, both the writing and the research, as well as time spent thinking about past experience and how to share it.
And then I am going to continue to enjoy my purpose free, guilt free time………..

“This is the real secret of life -- to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play.” 
― Alan W. Watts
“When he worked, he really worked. But when he played, he really PLAYED.” 
― Dr. Seuss
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